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Choosing a Modern Diaper Bag: Backpacks vs. Totes

Posted by Katharine Guidotti on

Motherhood is a masterpiece of motion. From daycare drop-offs to late-night diaper changes, from board meetings to bottle warmers, you move through it all with grace, grit, and your own beautiful rhythm. Your bag should keep pace.

Whether you lean tote or backpack, structure or softness, we’ve gathered a few of our favorite modern diaper bags to carry you through the swirl of daily life.

Backpack or Tote? Let Your Lifestyle Lead the Way

When it comes to choosing the right diaper bag, it’s not about trends or checklists. It’s about you: your pace, your style, your way of moving through the world. Some days you need to be hands-free. Other days, you want something that slips over your shoulder and feels a little more like you. Let’s explore both sides.

Backpack Diaper Bags: If You’re All About Hands-Free Hustle

You’ve got a toddler on one hip and a coffee in the other. You need both hands (and maybe a few extra) just to make it out the door. This is where a stylish diaper backpack becomes more than helpful. It becomes essential.

Backpacks offer balance, distribute weight evenly, and let you go from stroller-pushing to grocery-cart-wrangling without missing a beat. They’re especially ideal if you're babywearing, commuting, or simply tired of bags sliding off your shoulder.

Consider a backpack if this sounds like you:

  • You walk... a lot.
  • Your mornings are a blur of bottle prep and daycare drop-off.
  • You need quick access to wipes with zero fumbling.
  • You crave structure and comfort in equal measure.

Top backpack styles for you:

Diaper Bag Totes: If You Love Combining Function and Style

There’s something undeniably satisfying about slipping a tote over your arm and walking into the day like you own it. Fashionable diaper bag totes allow you to carry all the baby gear without sacrificing your style, offering a roomier interior with easy reach-ins and grab-and-go grace.

Totes are especially great for car travel, office days, or when you're toting more than just baby essentials. Bonus: many of them transition beautifully to life post-diapers, which makes them as long-lasting as your taste.

Consider a tote if this feels like your vibe:

  • You love having everything conveniently close at hand. 
  • You use one bag for baby things, your laptop, and maybe a snack or two.
  • You don’t mind switching shoulders but want your style to stay steady.
  • You view your tote as part of the outfit, not just the equipment.

Top tote picks for you: 

Our Modern Diaper Bags and Backpacks

Graceful, Grounded, and Gloriously You

model holding green quilted diaper bag tote

If your days dance between playdates and staff meetings, the Welland Diaper Tote was made with you in mind. It’s a modern diaper bag that throws away the old-fashioned look while still holding everything your baby needs. Crisp structure and quiet style, with 20 liters of beautifully designed space.

Why you’ll love it:

  • • Sling it over your shoulder or secure it to the stroller
  • • Includes a changing pad and laundry bag keep life clean and calm
  • • Pockets, pockets, and more pockets, because surprises come in all sizes

Where Ease Meets Elegance

model holding white quilted diaper bag backpack

Some days call for all hands free. The stylish Welland Diaper Tote Backpack gives you freedom without forgoing space. Hold all of your child’s necessities with a refined silhouette that could pass for a designer piece. Wear it your way (backpack or tote) and keep moving at your own tempo.

Why you’ll love it:

  • • Trolley sleeve for easy travel
  • • External phone pocket so you're never fumbling
  • • A PVC-lined pocket that’s always ready for a spill or two

Not a Diaper Bag… But It Could Be

model holding large floral patterned tote bag

For the mom who packs light but lives large. Our Hathaway Tote is for days when diapers share space with lipstick, notebooks, and everything else. It’s not officially a diaper bag, but this fashionable tote features ample space for kid stuff while keeping your style uninterrupted.

Why you’ll love it:

  • • Washable Premium Cotton holds up to spills and sticky fingers
  • • Easy-clip loops mean no more digging around
  • • Big enough for the essentials, beautiful enough for anything

An Elevated Everyday Tote

large black quilted cotton tote diaper bag

Here’s the bag you’ll reach for when the to-do list runs long and you need backup. With a roomy design, our Original Zip Tote is your never-let-you-down sidekick bag that can go from daycare drop-off to the weekend farmers’ market without missing a beat. And that’s exactly why you’ll love it.

Why you’ll love it:

  • • Updated zip closure for added peace of mind
  • • Long strap drop for easy over-the-shoulder days
  • • Exterior and interior pockets to keep every day organized

Bold, Beautiful, and Built to Keep Up

model with large pink quilted backpack with tulip pattern

Some days call for maximum storage and minimal fuss. The Bancroft Backpack delivers both, with dedicated compartments, plenty of space for baby essentials, and just enough polish to keep things looking sharp. It’s perfect for parents who are managing nap schedules and Zoom calls on the same day.

Why you’ll love it:

  • • Holds up to a 15-inch laptop along with diaper bag necessities
  • • Trolley sleeve and side pockets make travel a breeze
  • • Plenty of storage space so you’re ready to carry anything

The ‘I’m Still Me’ Bag

light blue leather diaper bag backpack unzipped to show paisley pattern inside

Equal parts purse and powerhouse, our Chancery Backpack is the sleek solution for moms who want to feel put together while handling the day’s chaos. This is the stylish diaper backpack alternative for those who want functionality without shouting “diaper bag.”

Why you’ll love it:

  • • Secret zip base compartment perfect for tucking away diapers and wipes
  • • Roomy enough for your laptop and your little one's backup clothes
  • • Fashionable without fuss

Because Organization is Self Care

three green zippered pouches with leaf pattern

This three-piece pouch set is like a personal assistant that lives inside your bag. Whether you're corralling snacks, pacifiers, or tech, our 3 Pouch Organizer Set turns clutter into calm in one stylish move.

Why you’ll love it:

  • • Three sizes let you customize your setup.
  • • O-ring clip keeps everything together and within reach.
  • • Zip closures make staying organized feel effortless.

No Wrong Answers, Only the Right Bag for You

There’s no need to pick sides forever. Some moms switch between backpacks and totes depending on the day, the plan, or the mood. The real win is choosing a bag that supports you, in every way: your rhythm, your priorities, and your sense of self.

Because modern motherhood looks different for everyone. And we wouldn’t have it any other way.

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